We all know anger is a powerful emotion that can be very hard to control sometimes. And I’m pretty sure we all experienced something similar in our life’s.
Anger is a normal, usually healthy emotion we all experience. But when anger gets out of hand, it can cause major problems at home and at work. And that’s what I want to talk about in this article.
Usually, anger shows up when someone deliberately done us wrong. Or maybe offended us. And I’m going to give you a very simple example in this kind of situation, including mistakes we make and what would be wise to do.
Let’s just say a person you know from work or school says something offending to you. Others laugh. And you feel disrespected. Your immediate reaction is anger.
– respond with anger.
– violent act. (hope that’s not the case)
– prove that you were hurt. (others feel satisfied to see that you were offended by their actions). So don’t give them the satisfaction! Be strong and bring a smile to your face.
But what would be wise to do in this situation is ignore that person. Or if possible, leave the room to give you time to cool down and clear your mind. It’s very possible that by the time you get back, the other people might even forgot what happened.
Another great example I could think of is being angry at someone close to you, maybe a family member or a close friend. The ironic part of it is that we have arguments with our close ones even more often than we do with other people. And the big mistake we all make here is to respond immediately with anger and hurtful words. We speak before thinking. Barely realize that the words we say with anger can hurt deeply and can never be taken back.
A quote says: “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”– Ambrose Bierce
Yes, it’s true, we can be forgiven, but those hurtful words or actions will be printed in that persons mind forever.
I’ve often heard the saying “I can forgive, but I can not forget”. So why not avoid to say offending words to other people which you can never take back?
The solution in this situation would be to leave the room or house, if necessary, and take a walk to clear you mind, cool off. Truth is, it’s very hard to avoid a fight when being angry, but if you take some time to calm down, relax, your mind will be very clear and you’ll see things differently, even act differently.
Also, I would like to add: Don’t wait for the other person to say “I’m sorry”, it’s always a good step for you to make things right. And trust me, you won’t regret. What we often don’t realise is that being angry with someone affects us too. Don’t you feel good when you’re at peace with everybody?
I myself am angry often, so firstly this is a lesson for me. But I’m teaching you these things so that you don’t have to live with guilt of something you’ve said or done. Be wise in your actions, malice never solved anything.